Parenting workshops
Thursday July 13th, 8 - 9.30pm - book your early bird ticket below
Do you strive to be a calm parent and then feel full of shame after losing your sh*t (again)?
You’re not the only one.
“Thank you so much for such a wonderful workshop! It was very reassuring and encouraging to know that ALL mums and even psychologists have similar feelings and triggers!
We are all human and the more we share our stories and get curious about our anger instead of hoping never to experience it the better everything feels - plus we will then be modelling how our own children can deal with their angry feelings instead of shutting them away. It’s a cycle of progress and growth and I now feel much more empowered instead of stuck in the cycle of guilt and shame.
Thank you.”
In this workshop on Mum Rage, you will learn:
how anger shows up in your body
how to self-soothe & break the cycle of shame
how to feel more confident to handle triggering moments
Becoming a mother can reawaken childhood wounds, when we may have learnt to suppress ‘negative’ feelings to survive or were shamed for showing anger. Within the arena of Western motherhood our shadow side is - culturally - silenced and denied. ‘Good’ mums are always calm, coping & in control – never expressing overwhelm or white-hot rage.
This means anger stays simmering under the surface, ready to spill out following a series of provocations in striving to meet little people's needs.
No wonder mums feel angry right now. The latest research shows as many as 1 in 3 mums report intense anger after having a baby. Many factors fuel maternal rage, ranging from individual factors such as broken sleep, feeling unsupported & bearing the parenting load alone, to systemic factors such as high costs of living and childcare, and lack of meaningful structural support. Parenting in isolation and pressure to parent perfectly further fans the flames. Often this anger is directed inward – toward ourselves – resulting in shame, self-criticism and a sense that we’re ‘failing’. We’re ‘not enough’.
As a mum-of-two and clinical psychologist who specialises in anger, I understand that motherhood pushes us to the very edges of ourselves.
In this 90-minute workshop, I will support you to understand:
- What happens in your brain & body when you “flip your lid” (aka “seeing red”)
- Your relationship with anger; the costs and benefits
- How to recognise your triggers
- Practical, proven ways to soothe your anger, repair with others, & channel it constructively
- Plus an experiential grounding exercise to close
I will allow time for Q&A at the end of the workshop - please feel free to email any questions beforehand. I’ll also send out relevant resources after the event. If you’re unable to attend at the time, I will send out a recording.
Please contact me with any questions!
***Book your ticket for the evening workshop***
Thursday July 13th, 8 - 9.30pm
drcarolineboyd@gmail.com
“I felt seen and less like a bad mum.
Really brilliantly paced and structured and I definitely felt safe.
Great info & pace, psychological safety in the group.
Really well presented, great facilitation, good slides, all concepts very well articulated in an easy to understand way.
It was really informative. I also found it amazingly reassuring to have a peer group of mums with very similar issues.
Very useful. Felt confident to contribute. No taboo around our feelings and behaviours. We are not bad parents, we recognise a need to improve.”
This workshop is for YOU if:
the anger you feel in motherhood came as a shock
you often lose your sh*t in the moment & feel shame & regret afterwards
you want to understand what’s going on in your brain & body in ‘hot’ moments
you want ways to create a pause so you don’t go from 0 - 100 in nanoseconds
you want to explore where you anger comes from
you want to lose your temper less & feel more connected to your kids
This workshop can either be attended as a stand-alone session or as preparatory work for my six-week signature anger course offering specialist support, starting in the Autumn.
In my anger course, I'll be taking a deeper dive into anger with you to cover these topics:
* Physiological & social costs of anger + your circle of support
* Patriarchal motherhood & the tyranny of perfection
* Boundaries & the art of self-soothing
* The dance of anger in the partner relationship
* Repairing with your child & teaching emotional literacy
* Anger as a catalyst for change: connecting to our values & what really matters
My next course starts on Thursday September 21st. To ensure you receive my course info along with more psychology tips in mothering, sign up to my mail out (below).
About Caroline
Chartered clinical psychologist Dr Caroline Boyd has over 10 years' experience working in the NHS and mental health settings, and specialises in supporting parents from pregnancy to childbirth and beyond. Caroline is the author of Mindful New Mum, and her published research explores mothers' experiences of intrusive thoughts about their babies. Her work has been featured in You magazine, Grazia, the Telegraph, BBC Radio Scotland and Woman's Hour.
Caroline shares psychology ideas on Instagram and podcasts such as Motherkind to help parents feel more connected - to themselves and their children - and less alone.
Art credit: Alex Virr